The divorce process can be emotionally challenging. It can also take a long time. Many spouses find they have to communicate throughout, which can be the last thing they want to do. They may find themselves bursting out into frustration and conflict every time they speak to their spouse. This may be a natural reaction, but it is not healthy or helpful to the process.

Here are 6 tips for avoiding arguments throughout the divorce process:

1. Write it Down. Written communication is far superior to verbal communication in this process. For one, you can document all written communication and present it to others if needed. It also allows you to consider your response far more than you can while speaking in the moment. You can take the time to respond that makes all the difference between being defensive and choosing to de-escalate. State the facts clearly. Do not argue. 

1. Think Long-Term. If you have children with your spouse, your interactions with them could continue for the rest of your life. The end of the divorce process often does not mean the end of all communication forever. Rather than responding impulsively, think long-term and tailor your responses as though they are with a business partner you dislike but have to continue working alongside for the foreseeable future.

1. Check Your Social Media. Anything you post on Social Media will be scrutinized by your spouse and their attorney. Make sure you have all your accounts private, avoid and report any potential harassment and don't post any sensitive information. Even if your account is private, your spouse may have ways to see your posts.

1. Use an Attorney. Your lawyer can communicate with your spouse and their lawyer for you. Take advantage of this service and avoid unnecessary communication. The less you talk to them, the less potential opportunities for a conflict come up.

1. Try to Stay Respectful. Even if your spouse does not maintain the same standard, try to stay civil and respectful at all times. We know this is not easy – and it is why we recommend using written communication over verbal. Consider what response you want to make and how to word it as sensitively as possible. If your spouse is trying to goad you into a shouting match, be the better person and do not take the bait. Stick to the facts. 

1. Take Your Time. Divorce can take a long time, and healing can take even longer. There is no need to respond to your spouse immediately if they are trying to communicate with you, even if at all. Use the benefit of time to your advantage and do non-essential things on your own timetable.

We know that avoiding arguments is not easy during a divorce. We believe that you should have the time and tools to make communication with your spouse as simple as possible. If you need help with your family situation, contact Ahluwalia Law Professional Corporation today. Get the legal assistance you need!